Amidst All The Parenting Chaos In The World, Here Is Why You Should Resort To #SimplifiedParenting

*complete chaos in my mind*You may also like: Raising empathetic children is all we need in today’s worldBy now I am seeking the help of career counsellors to guide me, chalk out the future of our kids and their career paths. Who better to judge a child’s capability and skills than a parent who has seen them achieve every milestone of their life- their first step, their first words, their first ride on a cycle…Let’s start a conversation with our own kids, hear their dreams and let them plan their own future. Lets look away from the world and its instruction manuals about parenting and look into the hearts of our kids, where their dreams lie. While we as parents always want what’s best for our children, we forget that by handing them everything out on a platter, we are depriving them of so many life lessons. To fill our loved ones life with love and laughter, to be open to opinions, to be receptive to expressions and debates and more importantly to stay calm amidst all the chaos!
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As parents, we are guilty of belonging to a community of chaos. We are surrounded by the chaos of the social calendar, of ours and the kids. We meet other parents, mingle, talk and share our goals, aspirations and our children’s dreams. We also talk about the future of Gen X, the effect of the Trump-iant elections and our own demonetization problems. We discuss with these community shareholders about schools, tuitions and everything.

Very soon these thoughts start lingering on our mind “Are we on the right track? Is this what we want? Are we planning ahead enough? Are we sending them to the best of the best educational institutes? Are their coaches the best?â€_x009d_And then- we start worrying about their friends. 

“Are those kids good enough for my child? Will it be better if he/she hangs around with those another set of kids? Am I giving my child enough attention and space? Whats next in line for them?â€_x009d_

Before we know it, we have longer telephonic conversations with other parents to find out more on how to better ourselves as a parent. What follows next? More research? And some more self-doubt? Summer school or SAT preps?Same tuition teachers for her that supported the older child or should I check others out? Am I doing this parenting thing right? Is it enough? What else can I do for the kids to attain their optimum? *complete chaos in my mind*

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By now I am seeking the help of career counsellors to guide me, chalk out the future of our kids and their career paths. “What is the kind of career counsellor I am looking at? Old school or the new dapper kind? Is the career counsellor enough or should I involve the school counsellor as well to bring in an overall outlook?” More appointments made, more research done with pro/con list! *utter chaos*

This has been my mindset for the past year. After a lot of thought, self-investigation and analysis, I wonder how our parents dealt with all this?! Even though we recognise that the environment is more competitive now, everyone wants to be in the top tier, and anything below is not acceptable. It is essential that we as parents should keep in touch with our intuitions and understand that the old school of thought of self–discovery, still holds as much importance as it did before. Who better to judge a child’s capability and skills than a parent who has seen them achieve every milestone of their life- their first step, their first words, their first ride on a cycle…

Let’s start a conversation with our own kids, hear their dreams and let them plan their own future. Let’s stop telling them what to think. Let’s look away from the world and its instruction manuals about parenting and look into the hearts of our kids, where their dreams lie. Let’s tell our children that even if their decisions are wrong, we will stand by them and work them out until they do it right. Let’s constantly remind them, that it is ok to be wrong, ok to fall, dust it off, and walk with a bounce of confidence in their step.

While we as parents always want what’s best for our children, we forget that by handing them everything out on a platter, we are depriving them of so many life lessons. By the dazzle of our organisational skills, we take away from them, the opportunity to form an opinion, to express their concerns and in turn to form a dialogue with the world about their dreams. Often, in the process of honing our parental skills, we deprive them the opportunity to make mistakes,  the opportunity to be their own champions.

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It is now time for us as parents to know that parenting is an art which requires the knowledge of correct timing. The timing of when to be a catalyst, when to be a spectator, and when to be an opponent in the debate of life. Time for us as parents to mould ourselves into better role models for our children, rather than to continuously keep moulding them into better human beings. Instead of telling them what their opinion should be, let’s help them express their opinions, be open to a dialogue and be ready for a healthy debate.

This is the real job of the parenting community.  To fill our loved ones life with love and laughter, to be open to opinions, to be receptive to expressions and debates and more importantly to stay calm amidst all the chaos!

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