Every day a newÂ strand of grey hair getsÂ added to my otherwiseÂ blackÂ hair, my time in front of the mirror just increases. My daughters watch as I discussÂ with themÂ how I will look with all my hair all white, whileÂ myÂ husbandÂ stands silently,Â thinking of a politically correct answer. My daughters meanwhile, think I will look beautiful!
With barely 60 days Â to go before the New Year, everyone has weight loss on their mind and we all want to have better hair, thinner waists and legs, toned arms and butt, a sharper nose, clear skin, and bigger eyes.
Which mother today can safely say they have never felt uncomfortable with their looks in today’s glam crazy world? With pictures of celebrity moms returning to size zeros weeks after their pregnancy, or ads screaming about how the perfect mom should look like being bombarded at us, it is tough not to feed just a tad bit insecure.
So what would be that one thing you would like to change in your body?Â The innocent answers given by theseÂ smallÂ kids in this video , will make you question yourself on when was the last time you feltÂ comfortable in youÂ own skin.
Being happy with what weÂ have is something we can learn from the little kids in the video, who are free of any preconceived notions about having aÂ perfect body,Â and would not want to change anything in it if they had a choice.
In my view, one of the biggest changes every womanÂ experiences after becoming a parent is accepting her new appearance and being confident inÂ herÂ post pregnancy body.Â Most importantly to be happy with what she is rather than trying to become someone she is not.
AÂ recent researchÂ Â shows that kids asÂ young asÂ fourÂ years old are concernedÂ with body image issues.Â Experts say children pick up on these cues that later influence how they feel about their own bodyÂ -Â first from their parents, especiallyÂ when they seeÂ theirÂ moms consciously choosing clothes which make her look good or hide her weight. Or when they seeÂ their friendsÂ followingÂ aÂ new dietÂ to lose weight, or even when they see other kids of their age on televisionÂ who are much thinner than they themselves are.
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Here is why “being comfortable in your skin”Â can help you raise happy kids:
- Love your body :Â Whether you are fat or thin, fair or dark, if you areÂ happy and confidentÂ about your appearance, your kids will also learn to be happy with the way they look.
- Stop saying negative things about your self or your body before your kidsÂ because if they see you battling with low self esteem and unhappiness they will pick up on that.
- Appreciate and value the things you have:Â This would also meanÂ teachingÂ your kidsÂ to stay grounded and unaffected by peer pressures.
- Accept your imperfections and work on them:Â If you are not good at cooking-join a cooking class, if you want to tone your body-Â exercise regularly,Â because when your kids see you working on your weaknesses they will understand that nobody is perfect and being weak in certain areas just means you need to work hard at it.
- Know your limits:Â It means teaching your kids what they can afford, even if they make friends coming from richÂ Â financial backgrounds, they should not envy their lifestyle or feel deprived of those benefits.
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