How To React When Your Child Says Mean Things To You

“My child just doesn’t listen to me!”

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard this from parents, and honestly, I’ve been there myself. It’s a common concern, whether your child is a toddler just beginning to assert their independence or a teenager navigating the complexities of adolescence.

As parents, we all want to connect with our children in a way that fosters mutual respect and understanding. But how do we establish that bond early on, and how do we maintain it as they grow?

Recently, I had the opportunity to speak to a wonderful group of parents at the SIS Play Preschool in Kolkata. We delved into some of the challenges we face when raising young children, particularly when it comes to handling toddler tantrums and managing our own emotions in the process. One thing I emphasized during the session is that parenting isn’t just about correcting our children. It’s about understanding their world, their emotions, and why they might be acting out in the first place.

In my own journey as a parent, I’ve learned that responding, rather than reacting, to our children’s anger is crucial. When our children don’t listen, it’s often because they’re overwhelmed with emotions they don’t yet know how to express. Our job as parents is to be their calm anchor in those stormy moments, to guide them through their feelings rather than simply telling them what to do.

I’ve shared some of these strategies in a video I recently recorded. In it, I talk about how to better understand your child’s behavior, why they might not always listen, and what you can do instead to foster a more cooperative relationship. I’d love for you to watch it and share your thoughts in the comments. Let’s continue this conversation and support each other in this challenging, yet rewarding, journey of parenthood.