Aren’t we tired of being commented upon our looks and being judged for the same? Why does mommyhood often come with a free license for people to comment on your looks or age?!
We at KSP asked moms to write in and share their experiences of being mom-shamed, judged and ridiculed and we have received numerous responses from moms who have been victims but decided to march ahead and pursue their dreams. Today’s story is about this mom who is questioned for doing what he loves the most.
Scroll down to read this mom-Nandini Advani’s take on mom shaming and why we must rise above these judgements.
Growing up, I was always fascinated by how makeup can transform one's face and mood! My love for makeup eventually turned into my profession. That I chose to be a makeup artist, was the first thing I was judged for. You see, its "not a profession that needs brains" – that's what I was told!
Even though my dressing up is a rare occurrence, and I'm found mostly in track pants and spectacles, at many social and family gatherings I have heard, "Why do you have to wear makeup? It's only us!" (Funny, they thought I did it for them. Lol! ). And, "you look nice without makeup, you don't need it, you know." (I'm humbled, thank you!).
Before I had kids, I was told: "Do all this now, once you have kids, you'll have no time, like us." (Jealous much?!?) And now I'm told, "You have kids, the nanny is watching over them, and you're dolling up?" (That's her job. No?) Or much worse- " Your husband takes care of the kids and lets you get dressed up?! You have trained him well" (I'm allowing them some bonding time, you see️!).
Sadly, 8 out of 10 times these comments come from women. Why is it wrong for someone to look presentable or take more efforts than usual? Just like no one wants to be judged for their dowdyness, I'd not like to be judged for dressing up! Isn't that a realistic expectation? #JudgeMeNot.
Mommies- if you are inspired to share your experiences on being mommy-shamed or judged- here's what you need to do. Write to us about your experiences on being judged/mommy-shamed and how you reacted to it.
- Click here to share your experience right away.
- Don't forget to add a few lines about yourself, your social handles and a pic (in the above format- with the #JudgeMeNot placard)
- We would be giving you super moms a shout out on our social platforms and tagging you.
Let's do this for our tribe and put an end to mom-shaming once and for all. #SimplifyingParenting
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