First friends in motherhood

What makes everything about the first baby so special? The first test, sono, kick, bump, clothing and ofcourse all the effort you take to make friends at your prenatal class.

These friends are the ones who invariably become part of your birthing club and you kind of bond over all issues like gynecology appts, weight gain, anxieties of labour, breastfeeding, pediatric issues, first solid food, first poop, first milestone, and ofcourse every detail that your spouse also may not be interested in.

With the second time while the baby is special and everything else is routine its just different making new friends. Why?
1. Because as second time moms we think we know it all.

2. We are too involved with the first one to think about making friends

3. Where is the time?

4. Unless the gap between the two children where you need to know what’s new, you don’t need new friends

5. More friends mean more birthday parties and play dates and we are so done with that

6. Not many couples have second child these days.

I think the first one its the anticipation and lack of experience that got us together. We met for multiple coffees and deserts and chatted away in ignorance not knowing whats going to hit us. We didn’t know that late night parties, coffees and movies would change to watching matinee shows. We didn’t know our holidays wouldn’t be unplanned and summer vacations so important. We didn’t know that school admissions were a night mare and they could do to us what labour didn’t. We didn’t know parlour visits would be replaced by doctor and chemist visits. We didn’t know the difference between junk and healthy and good manners & bad. We never watched our language and didn’t know what sharing our spouses would mean.

I have connected with so many new moms with the second pregnancy but that bond I shared with my birthing clubs is different. I can see that smile on my friends faces go from ear to ear as they read this and feel so good.

I wish I can make a lot of new friends and connect with moms with my second one too. I know it helps and its a great feeling to share all those motherhood anxieties. What do you guys think? Can you do it again?

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