Am I the only one who is done with reading about Stay at home versus working moms? Really why is it such a discussed topic? The answer to this simple question is you will work if you need to or want to and neither is wrong. What’s wrong is judging a parent and saying he is good or bad depending on his professional status. Why do women judge women all the time? Why don’t men do that? Nobody asks them or rather judges them by the amount of time they spend parenting versus working. Also India is a different country so please don’t feel guilty with a zillion forwards that you may get on guilt of a working mom. We are fortunate that our kids eat fresh home-made food, stay with grandparents and have a really hectic social life. We don't have the infrastructure of organized child care centres that does make a lot of us quit flourishing careers and make decisions we wouldn't have made otherwise. I have experienced all 3 types of parenting and I have enjoyed each one of them. Here are the highlight moments of each of them. So please scroll right down to read about each of the cool mommy categories created by us . Also my thoughts on what our kids will feel for us when they eventually grow up. Full time working mom and I loved every bit of it but few know that:
1. In a meeting and thinking about my kids
2. I spend atleast 30 mins at work reading things about parenting, kids recipes, behaviour and downloading activities that I could do over the weekend
3. I excuse myself out from the most important meeting if I get a call from home or school
4. I am always being spoken about in office for leaving early or using ‘being mommy’ for skipping office parties or leaving early
5. I love what I do and don’t think I can give it up yet
6. When I am home I am only yours versus trying to be glued onto my phone
7. I don’t watch TV even though I would love to so I can read to you.
8. I make sure I send all your requirements for projects and completed assignments so I am not judged as an irresponsible WORKING mom
9. I love taking you to the park each day so I can just surrender to a world that has no office politics and I love being a kid with you
10. I take a lot of effort to network and catch up with other moms so I know that you are not missing out on any events, playdates, activities that would help you learn
1. I don’t fold laundry or cook though I grocery shop or order it over the phone sometimes
2. I feed you all meals because I want you to eat well and maybe because you eat better with me
3. I play with you because I feel I am the best teacher you could have
4. I plan a lot of playdates and have friends over because I do believe that it will help your social skills
5. I manage the house, the help, live each day with their tantrums and yours and sometimes wonder why am I doing this
6. I read a good story in the industry I was working in with infinite breaks that I finally give up
7. I crave for a good cup of hot tea and not drinking it while running errands
8. I love taking you to the park each day because I know you look forward to every outing
9. I check my phone often is only because I don’t get time to surf the net or stay tuned to the news everyday both of which are important to me
10. I make you study because that’s what my mom did and I think I turned out great
Stay At Home Working Moms:
1. I work while you are away at school but spend enough time planning what are you going to do once you are back
2. I read books to you or play a quick game even if there is chaos and crisis at work
3. I drop and pick you up from all your classes and school even if it is in between work
4. I work harder on days where I know I need to take the next few days easy to be at school or do your project
5. I work after you are asleep and before you wake up because I love working and you
6. I get scared when you answer my phone because it could be a client who is expecting me to be professional
7. I really want to take a nap when you nap but I quickly pull myself out before the heart convinces the mind
8. I often wonder what am I doing and why
9. I can work in any amount of noise and environment. Nothing matters.
10. I save time dressing uo which actually makes me feel good only so I could get that time with you.
Mansi Zaveri
KSP Team
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