Every child looks up to his/her parents for every little thing. A nod, an appreciation, a stern look, a denial, a smile all these mean a lot to the little minds. As long as they are tiny tots, infants and preschoolers, we appreciate their cute looks and comment on it often. But as parents do we realize that unintentional words at times might impact the kid in the long run? Especially, when you have a little girl.
Our society has hit hard upon us the importance of “good looks” and how we are rated in the society based on our looks. Young girls are told not to stand in a particular way, don’t sit in that posture, don’t do this, don’t do that, etc. Some of these advice may seem right, but the way it is put forth is not.
Let’s admit the fact that the next generation is way smarter than what we were. Our little girls understand what we say (and sometimes, what we don’t!) and look to learn from us. Keeping that in mind as mothers, especially, we have certain responsibility in raising them right.
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Here is a small heart-felt checklist of what you should talk to your girl and what you shouldn’t:
- Never comment about your physical appearance in front of your kid. Saying things like “Oh my god! I have become so fat!” will make your little girl wonder what’s wrong with Mumma and deep inside the head she will be disapproving of looking like you. Remember.
- A study conducted in 2012 revealed that when parents constantly talk about calories and carbs at dinner or fret over how fat they look in jeans, their kids are more likely to be dissatisfied with their own bodies.
- As far as possible, let sanity prevail and let us stop commenting about people’s appearances. Picture this. You are out shopping/dining with family. Every act by you is a study for the kids and they learn how to behave outside modelling you. When you pass comments such as “That dress looks horrible on that girl” or “He looks so sick and thin”, you are driving home the wrong lessons in front of your kids. They begin to accept that passing comments on people is right and appearance is top priority.
- For young girls growing up, they would already be puzzled with many questions on their minds about what’s happening with them. Make her comfortable and talk to her. Don’t judge the girl by her appearance. Never comment on whether growing up has made her good-looking or not so good-looking. That makes for a case of worst parenting.
- Insist on “healthy” than “beauty”. Your daughter might look slim, but what is essential is that she stays healthy. Turn into responsible parents and ensure your child eats healthy food.
- Make exercising a family routine and get your kids involved. Reinstate the importance of exercise to keep one healthy body and mind wise. Don’t force exercise upon your daughter because you want them to reduce weight.
- Most important remember that your daughter would want you to be the person she shares all her secrets with. You are the inspiration and role model for your daughter. If you constantly criticize or disapprove of her appearance, you may lose the cherished vibe.
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