Expert: This Is What You Can Do When Your Teen Argues About Everything

If you’re raising a tween/teen, then there are chances you have been on the receiving end of this behaviour. This is how an expert recommends a parent should handle these outbursts.

Transition at every stage of development is a challenging phase. The ups and downs that come along with it, lead to tough times for both, the person going through it and those around him. The best part is, effective coping strategies can make this transition a smooth one.

‘A tween (pre-teen) is a child who is between the stages of childhood and adolescence. It is this “in-between” stage that the name “tween” is derived from. The term was first coined in the late 1980s.

Children enter their tween years somewhere around ages 9 to 12 years old.’ With the onset of puberty during this stage, the child goes through a lot of changes, not only physical but emotional and mental too. This is a difficult phase for them and the parent as well.

I always tell the parents during my consultations, ‘Though, your child is becoming independent, this is the time that he needs you the most.’

The most common concerns that parents come up with are- the child being rebellious, wanting to spend more time with peers or alone and having emotional ups and downs. The most challenging for them, is, to handle the argumentative behaviour during this period.

It is important for the parents to understand that their tween is not disrespecting them but they are trying to find who they are and develop their individual identity. They have their views and ideas and want to voice their opinions. The child may not always agree with what a parent says and there could be a difference of opinion. In this case, a parent should not consider it as the child is against them but should create an environment where they can have a healthy discussion.

Behavioural Traits To Expect During This Phase:

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